8 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW BEFORE DATING A SINGLE MOM
Dating a single mom is hard. It takes a special kind of man to make room in his heart for a single mom AND her kids. For making the choice to step up when he didn’t have too. 💖
DATING A SINGLE MOM IS HARD
I’m just going to say it, dating a single mom is hard. Single moms are tired, all the time. Things are changing for us, all the time. We take on the world by ourselves, and we don’t really have time for you. But we try to make time. Dating a single mom is a lot of commitment. It’s a lot of change. It’s being our partner in the crazy life of raising children. We have our sh*t together, and we don’t need you. But we do want you. And if you decide to be our partner, we will love you unconditionally, because that’s how we love our kids.
YOU NEED TO MAKE OUR LIFE EASIER, NOT HARDER
All we really want is for you to love our kids and make our lives easier. When you do the “normal” things like cook dinner, help around the house, or pick up groceries on your way home - we will appreciate it and not take it for granted. The only people we need in our lives are the people that are going to make our life easier. You need to know that we are not going to pick up after you. You’re going to have take care of yourself while we take care of ourselves and our kids. We are looking for a partner, not another person to clean up after. So if you come into our life and make it easier by helping us with the little things, then we will have more time to invest in our relationship with you.
WE KNOW WHAT WE DO NOT WANT
Every relationship teaches you what you want and don’t want in your next relationship. I think it’s safe to say that most single moms are looking for someone the complete opposite of their ex. Take time to listen to the reasons why her and her ex didn’t last and don’t make the same mistakes. We aren’t ones to make the same mistake twice.
EVERY DAY IS DIFFERENT, AND YOU’RE JUST GOING TO HAVE TO ROLL WITH IT
Single moms have a lot on their plate. They work long hours, take care of their children, clean the house, pay the bills, and have about 100 things on their to-do list at all times. Because of this, one day we might be super happy and ready to take on the world with you. But on the next day, we’re running on two hours of sleep and might need to pretend like you don’t exist because we have other things to take care of. Know that every day is different, and it doesn’t change how we feel about you!
WE UNDERSTAND CANCELLED PLANS OR IF YOU’RE RUNNING LATE
The best part about dating a single mom is that we understand late or cancelled plans! If something comes up with your family, or if you’re running late from work, no worries. We’re probably going to be late anyway!
WHEN WE GET A NIGHT OFF, WE WANT TO MAKE THE MOST OF IT
Getting a night off is extremely rare, especially if we have our kids 100% of the time. So when we do get a night off, we want to make the most of it. Having dinner with your parents or watching Netflix is something that we can do on any other night.
WE DON’T WANT ROMANCE, WE WANT SLEEP
Okay, sometimes we want romance. But most of the time, the greatest grand gesture is watching our kids so we can take a nap. We probably haven’t had one in two years 😂
WE DON’T WANT YOU TO MEET THE KIDS UNLESS YOU ARE READY
We do not want you to meet our children if you aren’t ready to stick it out for the long haul. But if you are ready… Know that when you take our children by the hand, you’ll take us by the heart. Although we are looking mostly for a partner for us, we also want our children to feel comfortable around you. If you treat our children with love and affection, then we’ll fall in love with you. All we want is our children to be safe and happy.